Ethan Hawke in Mr. Porter November 2013: People Have A Childish View Of Monogamy And Fidelity
During his sit down with the publication, the “Getaway” actor revealed the struggles that he and his ex-wife Uma Thurman shared while married and his approach to handling a monogamous relationship.
Check out a few highlights from Mr. Hawke’s interview below. For more, be sure to visit Mr. Porter!
On his take on relationships:
“People have a childish view of monogamy and fidelity. ‘He’s cheated so he’s bad, she’s cheated so she’s bad,’ as opposed to a recognition that our species is not monogamous. To act all indignant, that your world has been rocked because your lover wasn’t faithful to you, is a little bit like acting rocked that your hair went grey. I am [monogamous], but in ‘Before Midnight’ there is the threat of sexual attraction to others and maintaining your sexual identity with your partner over a long period of time. Human beings are sexual beings.”
On his marriage to Uma:
“We tried to be as optimistic as we could be: we all want to believe in love and the possibility of love. The older you get, the more you realize how powerful love is. You understand the right ways for emotion to lead your life and the dangerous ways. I don’t regret marrying earlier. ‘Gattaca’ was a great moment in my life and a great moment in Uma Thurman’s life and we fell madly in love and wanted to do all that.”
On his famous good looks:
“I never defined myself as [a heart-throb]. If you invest a lot in that it’s broken the mind of more than one actor. I wanted do look like Harry Dean Stanton. I always felt my boyish looks prevented me from being considered for serious roles.”
On his 40th birthday:
“Turning 40 was super hard, I had always seen myself as ‘the kid’: I started a theatre company at 23, I published my first book at 25. I went from being a really old young person to a really young old person. When you’re 35, 36, you’re still trying to be 28, flirting like crazy, staying out late. Now I’m turning my eye to the benefits of aging. However, anybody who says vanity is not part of life is not telling the truth. I know that’s not a compliment. When I was younger I was told they gave me character, but now I have character so. Aging is awkward, but you have to let it happen. Flowers bloom, then they dry, but even then they have a kind of beauty.”
Photo Credit: Cedric Bihr for Mr. Porter